The good, the bad, and the snoopers.

Let's talk about snooping...you know, the thing we are all either guilty of doing or fantasizing about doing.

When it comes to relationships and technology, there is a WHOLE lot of information provided by that little smartphone your boyfriend or girlfriend is holding in their hand 24/7. How could you not get curious??

The question that remains is: is going through your partner's phone a good or a bad thing?

Dating coach, David Wygant of yourtango.com, believes relationships need to be built on trust, honesty, and respect. How can you keep those things when you feel the need to secretly look through your significant other's phone?

Wygant's number one piece of advice, especially for you ladies, is to never snoop:

"Never, ever snoop. When you snoop, you will find something. And you'll find something about which you can create a story — even if it's completely innocent. He might be flirting with an ex because he's had a row with you. It's his way of trying to figure things out. Or it could be his way of getting over the argument."

While I somewhat agree with Wygant's advice, some of it seems problematic.

First of all, as much as I would love to say flirting with an ex is innocent, I think it is (excuse my language) bullshit. If relationships are based on communication and trust, why would you feel the need to NOT communicate after an argument and betray trust by talking to an ex behind your girlfriend's or boyfriend's back? It is kind of like you would be taking two steps back.

Seems a little hypocritical there, Mr. Wygant.

Some believe snooping is a bad thing, but sometimes necessary. Honestly though, you might want to look at the bigger picture: is this relationship really healthy if I feel like I need to snoop behind my spouse's back?

CWU student, Mary Alioto thinks snooping can be useful, but only to find out if you are with the right person:

"I think snooping is bad in the sense that you don’t trust your partner and there is a reason you’re doing it. You could find something that will prevent you from wasting your time with someone who is bad for you but if you have to snoop behind their back without talking to them in the first place, you’re in the wrong relationship."

Wygant makes a good point with his second piece of advice: trust is built on communication and in order to build a trusting relationship, you need to start with communicating.

Overall, if you are suspicious about your relationship, it is definitely better to talk about the issue to your partner face-to-face instead of going all Nancy Drew on them--the adrenaline rush of sneaking around is probably not worth the pain.